Surprise Bed Camp

Today’s rainy morning morphed into the promised beautiful sunny afternoon. Much better than Saturday’s rainy morning, which decided to stay for 48 hours. With no hope for an improvement, I gave in. Impromptu Morning Bed Camp.

Looking out the window and confirming the cold rain would stick around, I opened the bedroom table and set some electronics and books on top, made the bed and went downstairs to make some coffee and breakfast. After a nice leisurely breakfast, I enjoyed a long bath, applied lots of foot cream, put on my new ‘manicure’ socks and gave into a morning of good reading.

I fully intended to get up after noon, but a nap just fell on top of me for an hour or so. And then I just stayed put. Reclining, reading, a movie, manicure and pedicure and snacks. Stayed put until 9:43 pm.

Yes, it’s always good to plan a Bed Camp Day ahead of time. But sometimes, you have to allow yourself the flexibility to take one on the fly. Go for it when you need and when you can. And wake up the next morning refreshed and hopefully in a sunny day.



Make Spring Happen

For the last few days weather forecasters were threatening another snow storm, not too much here, but snow nonetheless. It was only last night when they said the storm would likely pass by the city. Thankfully, I woke up in a bright, dry sunny day though the temperature was in the twenties. February cold.  And those forecasters keep reminding us the city has had snow as late as April. Almost seems like they can’t let winter go.

As of today, I will not acknowledge anymore snow. Not going to look at it, not going out in it. I will have a flash Bed Camp if it does happen. Supplies in hand and a list of things to do. Just. In. Case.

I’m on my way out to do some errands. It’s cold and windy. I’m clothed in layers. But, underneath my jeans and sweater and boots, I’m wearing my bike shorts and t-shirt. Though I’m on my way to Whole Foods, my mind is on a bike ride on the river. I’m not going to let myself feel the cold or the wind. Just not having any more of it. Done.

Set your mind on where you want it to be and own it!

The Best Time to Slow Down is When You’re in a Rush

My father used to say that lazy people took the time and energy to do a job right the first time. They didn’t take shortcuts and didn’t scrimp on effort.


He said it over and over again — very patiently, I might add. Lazy people don’t want to spend more time than they have to on something, he explained. They don’t want to take more time later to go back, make adjustments, fix things that aren’t right or, in the worst of cases, do it over again from the beginning. They’re too lazy to spend more time than they have to, to finally get it right. So, they do it right the first time.


Get that through a teenager’s head! I’m not going to admit just how many years it took to get it through mine.

These days, the words come to mind most often when I’m rushing something. It’s easy when you’re stressed, short of time and almost in a panic about getting something done, to dive into the task in a blind flurry of activity. Digging in hard makes you feel energized, with an adrenaline rush that convinces you that you can do the impossible. Ahh, but I’ve learned, the hard way, that when I was most stressed for time and in the midst of the choas, activity didn’t guarantee progress.

Let me suggest….Before you throw yourself against the clock, take ten minutes or so and make a plan. It’ll help your mind stay clear and focused.

  • Map out your task on paper or screen.
  • Jot down the steps…shouldn’t be detailed and exact, but aim for at least a vague order of completion.
  • Quickly check to see if you forgot anything, though you can go back and add things as you go along.
  • Don’t get too engrossed in the plan…the clock is ticking and time isn’t a luxury at this point.

Now you can see more clearly what has to be done and how you’re going to do it…you’re starting to calm down. Check off the steps as you finish them, tracking and celebrating your progress.

So, be lazy, take a little bit of time to make a plan,                                                         get it done right the first time…then go take a nap!

Is it Really Over?

Is Spring finally here?

What an awful winter in so many places in the US this year. Terrible, awful, miserable and cold and snowy in the Northeast. A lot of the rest of the country didn’t fare well either, except for parts of the southwest, which had warmer than usual temps. Jealous. I am so ready to come out of hibernation.

Bad weather, dark days and too many changes in the neighborhood. Construction continues on the luxury apartments which will replace what was once a hospital.  A building that will forever change the character of the neighborhood, and probably not for the better. Famous Ray’s Pizza is gone (again); Gray’s Papaya left after a huge rent hike, to be replaced by yet another juice joint; Loehman’s closed to make way for Barney’s return downtown; the BBQ place around the corner has closed and MXYPLZYK (not a spelling error, but a unique little independent gift shop) closed down as well, after many many years. And, while we finally may be getting rid of the sex shop on the next corner that the block association has been trying for years to close, I’m guessing they’re not trilled at the prospect of yet more luxury hi-rise housing. Not even going to think about all the snow I shoveled.


Oh well, on the plus side, there were two seasons of House of Cards and a new season of Downton Abbey to watch; a few really good books read and only a couple not up to par; just one new cookbook bought (total stands at 180); a new laptop; five or six or seven sweaters finished (a sign of a lot of indoor time); lots of good hearty winter dinners at home with good friends; and a hardcover cookbook made for a shower gift that honed my computer skills, kept me up way late into many nights, and took my mind off not wanting to veer outside into the cold and windy and snowy days.

Take ten minutes and jot down your ‘good’ and ‘awful’ of the Winter, say Goodbye, and move on to a list of the things you’d like to remember about this Spring.

Start exhaling now.