It’s that time of year again… Stress Awareness Month. Should have gotten the clue a week ago when the media loaded up on the topic. TV talk shows, radio, new books on the shelves. Mindfulness. Mediation. Peace. Do it not only for your mind, but for your health. Stress can hurt your body, make you sick. Getting rid of it and adopting better habits can also heal and reverse some bad stuff it’s doing to you. It’s important stuff. Listen. Okay, I’m not going to lecture, but please pay attention to the discussion going around this month.
Stress Tip: Here’s my way of dealing with people who drive me crazy and stress me out….
Take a few minutes and think hard about somebody who drives you nuts. That person who just gets you fired up, who says the wrong things, treats others badly, is just plain annoying, selfish and rude! Drives you up a wall!!!! Literally. In some cases, you might be able to talk to them about it, but too many times it’s not an option. It’s hard to tell someone they’re selfish and annoying, especially if you don’t know them well. And, odds are, you don’t want to.
How easy it would be if we could just remove them from our lives. Poof! and they vanish, never to be seen or heard of again. (Excuse me for a moment while I try to imagine such a gift in my head.) Unfortunately, way too often, that person is not going away. They could be someone at work, school, someone among your group of friends that you can’t avoid. Ugh!
Consider for a moment that maybe it’s not that person who’s doing damage to your head, but you.
You can’t change people. You can change the way you react to them. Letting them make you angry and stressed gives them power over you and that’s the last thing you need or want. Why are you giving them valuable real estate inside your head?
Take a moment the next time it happens. Inhale deeply and remind yourself that you know this person is rude/thoughtless/annoying etc. and ask yourself why are you surprised or appalled that they are acting that way? Selfish people do selfish things. Rude people do rude things. Close your eyes and keep breathing for a few moments and imagine yourself taking their power to get inside your head back. Enjoy that feeling of letting go and relaxing. You should actually be able to feel it. Smile and pat yourself on the back.
You own the moment. Move on.